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(No spoilers) Went and saw "Dracula Untold," tonight, with Grant and Ananda. Ananda and I just happened to watch the old Gary Oldman/Wynona Ryder "Bram Stoker's Dracula," which was my absolute favorite movie EVAR when I was her age, right before the trailer for this new one came out. Trailer looked somewhat compelling. Grant wanted to see it, and we only have a movie we're both interested in come out once or twice a year, so we went.

It was watchable, and I say that as someone whose mind drifts easily - I walk out of and away from movies without a backwards glance. It was also underwhelming, though. Interesting, the plot points they kept and the ones they added in. It had decent action scenes. And there was a scene in a cave that was almost captivating, and had me on the edge of my seat for a few minutes. But...I don't know, other than that, there was not enough character development - almost none at all really. I kinda just didn't care about the characters or plotline*. It was kinda like they took sweeping, "Lord of the Rings" vistas, some sets and costumes from "Game of Thrones", and standard period piece battle scenes, and stirred something up that had a very "Snow White: The Huntsman" vibe about it. Like, oh, this is pretty and they're doing a good enough job of it but it's forgettable, and it's also pretty easy to just make fun of it and have a good laugh.

It's also definitely one of those movies that only uses women as occasional extras, and one dimensional window dressing around the main dude.

*Exception - Vampire 1.0, aka Tyrion Lannister, stole the show. I wanted to know his story and see him in action. Unfortunately, he was on screen for approximately 6% of the movie.




On the other hand, I'm reading The Vampire Lestat, and have been so pleasantly surprised. It is, so far, easily as good as the best early Vampire Chronicles. The last few "New Tales" got dull at times, and Anne Rice's aversion to being edited sometimes seemed so problematic, that I was going in with hope but also trepidation.

But this is GREAT. Now and then a side character's history will drag for me just a little, but by and large there have actually been some years passing and so she's got some real stuff to fill in. And she's doing it, and then some. I laughed out loud and felt completely seduced, in the first few pages. I'm trying to ration it out so it won't be over too quickly.
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Our lentil soup recipe (this makes about half of a big stock pot):

Sautee in a small amount of water or olive oil, all diced up small,
-half a big yellow onion
-about 6 cloves of garlic
-4 large carrots
-4 celery ribs

Then to that, add,
-either a can of tomato juice or a couple of liquified tomatoes (we use the magic bullet)
-3 or 4 chicken broth cubes and 1 or 2 beef cubes. This is your call. I'm sure vegetable broth would be fine, and obviously actual broth as opposed to cubes would also work.
-24 oz of dried lentils, which I usually get as 2 12 ounce bags
-a lot of water - I fill the stock pot until it's about 2 inches from the top

Cook that on low-medium heat, stirring now and then, until it's reduced a couple of inches and is noticeably thickened.


Really, it's unbelievably delicious, REALLY cheap, and very good for you. We like to serve it with optional parmesan cheese on top, and a big bowl of salted diced tomato and avocado that can be eaten on crackers. I think white wine is a nice touch if you're into that.




Isaac has this horrible joke book Frank got him a couple of birthdays ago, and he reads it out loud to us at the dining table sometimes. Today over tacos, random guesses at answers seemed to provide bizarre and potentially unsettling insights into my children's minds :p

Isaac: What has holes but can hold water?
Elise: Bubbles!
Isaac: What gets bigger as you take from it?
Aaron: Reading?
Isaac: What gets taken before you get it?
Jake: Innocence!

*blink blink*




I took Annie tonight, and we watched The Fault in Our Stars. Before we headed north, we went through Checkers and got cheese fries. I ate WAY too many cheese fries when I was pregnant with her, and she is aware of that and it's totally a vice and a joke of both of ours. She says very right-on things whenever she has any (which is probably twice a year), like "These are way, way too good." Basically, we get extremely excited whenever one of us reminds the other that cheese fries exist and are out there, available. May we never remember more frequently.

It was interesting seeing what was left in the movie and taken out, vs the book. Overall they did a great job, and she and I were actually the only two people in our whole theater, which was really nice on a few occassions. Twice I said something that made us both laugh a lot. One, "You're only 14 and I'm pretty sure we've already surpassed your lifetime quota of 'how many sex scenes you're supposed to watch with your parents'," and two, "oh my gosh I'm just so relieved I don't have to deal with seeing him in that suit." *sigh*

While we were out, Grant posted this on facebook:

Overheard:
Isaac (10): Ahhh!!! A big palmetto bug! Elise, come get it!!
Elise (7): *sigh* Where is it?... There, OK... I got it! You can come out!
Issac: Phew!





Hmm, I'm trying to think of significant things from the past week or so.

I've gotten a lot of (Weight Watchers) Activity Points. I try to accrue but not actually eat the Activity Points. I did about an hour of walking Sunday, swam laps Wednesday morning, and did jogging intervals today.

I also fell for the first time in quite awhile today, outside the grocery store, but it felt like my standard clumsy semi-annual fall, rather than the scary B-12 deficient falls I was experiencing weekly for a few months there. Off the curb and onto the parking lot. I happily realized I hadn't fallen down since January, as I looked at my skinned knee and bruised hand. It was definitely a "lost my footing/can't walk straight" thing, rather than a "my legs stopped working" thing, so...hooray?

I scored some really cheap wardrobe staples from Forever 21 plus, via mail order. Great long-enough, flattering tank tops in good colors for $4.80 apiece, and leggings for $10, with free shipping and a discount code applied on top even. Also a jumper/pantsuit thing that looks HORRIBLE, though. Maybe in another 20 or 30 pounds it will be ok - we'll see.

Also got about $300 in science equipment totally free through another homeschooling family on our email list! SO MUCH STUFF. A dissection kit and manual that Elise is far more excited about than I am, and huge cases of everything from chemicals and reactants (carefully inventoried) to a compass, iron filings, magnets, scales, microscope slides, safety goggles, rubber gloves, sterno, a big 1 1/2 volt battery, alligator clips - just so so much. We're still going through it all and trying to make plans for it.

The same family also gave us a ridiculously gorgeous silver plated candelabra, the greatest hits of Tchaikovsky, and an illustrated children's dictionary, while we were there. Because homeschoolers ;)
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You may find it relevant going in that I am a fan of musicals in general, and saw and loved the stage production of Les Mis as a teenager.

Cut for Spoilers )
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Yesterday I went to my gyn for my IUD string check and she couldn't find it, so today I'm going in for an ultrasound to make sure it is indeed still in there. Apparently during heavy bleeding it's not unheard of to lose one in the toilet and not know? I feel like I would know. And I don't want to pay $70 for an ultrasound at the diagnostic center when I just payed $25 for the string check yesterday, and it BETTER be in there because the stupid thing itself was $400 less than 2 months ago.

We discussed the possibility of checking my thyroid but decided to hold off until Grant has insurance through the new job. Because of my incessant bitching about my weight gain, I'm sure, she quietly slipped me a sheet on my way out with info on all the local Weight Watchers groups, Overeaters Anonymous and a dietician. She is a good doctor and I might persue something. *sigh*

I also got a nice letter yesterday. Like, in the mail.

And, went to my first cheapo counseling appt at UM's psych clinic. It was definitely something. A student conducts your session on camera and then goes over the tapes with their supervising clinician as part of their training o_O The guy seemed really awkward and new to this, and it is definitely a first for me to be in counseling with someone YOUNGER THAN I AM (wut). But...he warmed up and I like participating in this program. It's really interesting to imagine I could be on his end of it in a few years. And, I left feeling good.

AND

-went out for pizza as a family
-long walk "suited up" in sneakers
-nursed/cuddled Elise, hugged everyone
-oversaw chores
-read to children
-etc

AND finished Ananda's hair. We bleached strips of it day before yesterday, and colored them last night. She is thrilled with how it came out.




modeled here with her "pachyderm pajamas"

It's a weird day, I feel really unproductive even though all those things sound like so much. I'm still feeling kind of sick and blah, and I slept in really late today feeling sick in bed, and it's very gray and raining out and dim inside. Grant is using up his PTO (paid time off) at the old job before he leaves so he's here, too, just basically playing computer games with the kids crowded around his chair complaining about how bored they are. I managed to kick the burdgeoning ear infection last week with a twice-daily regimen of emergen-c to wash down a handful of echinacea, probiotics, raw garlic cut into chunks and anti-inflammatories. I'm back on that routine again now to try to fend off this crap everyone (Laura's family, PATH, Kristin's kids) seems to be passing around (sore throat, sore joints, cough, intermittent misery). Ugh. All I want lately is fruits and vegetables (and coffee and alcohol, haha). Yesterday I ate a piece of bruschetta with tomato PILED on, a slice of triple mushroom pizza, a massive salad (spring mix, peas, tomatoes, mushrooms, seeds, almond slivers, craisins, kalamata olives and bits of chicken), a mango, and I had a caramel macchiato.

G and I watched Black Swan really late last night. It was stunning cinematography, truly freaky in spots, amazing acting, and...overall sort of pointless in a way that made us look at each other and roll our eyes as the credits started.

AND THEN!! My sleepy, up-too-late self scratched somewhere and caught a glimpse of my suddenly bloody looking fingers and had a split second freakout before I realized I'm just stained from Annie's hair dye and lol'd.

Ok, so...the kids are done with their chores. I guess I'm gonna make us all salads again and go to this ultrasound with homework in tow because they said to anticipate a 40 minute wait. English tonight.

I am REALLY excited about my own non-school writing. Things are so much closer and more real than they've been before!
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Last night Grant and I had a night of pseudo-debauchery. First, we went up to a tattoo place to ask how much - in time and money - this thing I'm thinking of would be. This turns out to be for naught as my friend Memo has turned tattoo artist (and is really good) and demands to be the only one who does it. It's actually a condition of him cranking out my original idea in some kind of stunning sketch. Fine with me. It will probably end up being at my house with my kids all gathered round and Memo doing it? That's got to be the most wholesome tattooing scenario in the history of the world.

Then G and I saw Season of the Witch, aka The Most Boring Movie of all Time. Seriously, I was LAUGHING OUT LOUD at the demon scenes 10 minutes after Grant fell asleep in the theater. *sigh*

Sidenote: Damn this movie The Rite coming out! It is the sort of thing I DO NOT want to see but will HAVE TO SEE and it will HAUNT ME FOREVER. It's like they took every "scariest thing ever" and put them in one movie: demon possession? Check. Satan being sneaky and manipulative? Check. Priests trying to help people being overtaken and still having authority? Check. Pregnancy and babies involved? Yup. ANTHONY FUCKING HOPKINS? YOU BETCHA!

Silence of the Lambs, it tormented me. It was so so bad. This one has a bonus "Based on a true story" tagline.

Moving on. Then we went to some 24 hour sex store. I haven't been in a sex store since my first 5 minute "Because I can" jaunt as a newly 18 year old. We were looking to browse things I can normally only view online that we could use together, and what's funny is that this was very reminiscent of the sort of excitement I had at seeing REAL LIVE CLOTH DIAPERS I COULD BROWSE AND TOUCH NOT ON THE INTERNET. Poor Grant was doing this super uncomfortable tunnel vision thing whilst I cackled madly at, for instance, the giant posters for XXX spoofs of the Twilight movies. Porn just...doesn't do it for me. I kind of don't get how anyone takes it seriously. I mean, are there really people who buy a dvd with a stretched out anus on the front cover that's called "Shitholes"? Like, not as a joke?

I was joking with the cashier as Grant looked at the floor and held out the credit card. Anyway, we got a bag full of goodies and so far they're pretty good.

There are at least a few people on lj I've talked about sex toys with extensively but I am not so sure about broadcasting when, for instance, my grandparents are reading every entry. Feel free to contribute to the discussion as you wish.




Today was productive. I did a TON of cleaning, read to the little kids, kept to my Eat to Live eating plan, and sewed a purse I bought the fabric for a couple of weeks ago. It came out pretty well. I also finally got to talk to Dama again, an actual significant conversation that "counts" :)

I am in love with this song by Florence and the Machine....Dog Days are Over and Kiss With a Fist are great, too, but I think this is my current favorite off the album (Lungs):


I think I'm doing that thing people do where they get a morbid fascination with death because they are too aware of their own mortality. I usually think that's a really melodramatic and lame thing to do - especially when it leads to things like skull tattoos that have some kind of "deeep meaning, maaaaan" - but it seems to be involuntary when it happens to you. So I suppose I'll just run with it.




CAMPING PICTURES!























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Today was mostly amazing. Some wake up stress, rushing rushing because Ananda and Aaron had a FIVE HOUR LONG tech rehearsal to be dropped off at, wherein Dance Empire was running through the whole recital. BUT THEN!

+I worked on and got amped about my surgery book.
+Wrote a short story I'm REALLY happy with - I have been riding a wave ever since I got done writing today :D My high school AP english teacher, of all people, has submitted his email address to me and I'm looking forward to sending him some things to see what he says - he has very scathing and honest critiques but also recognizes quality (we're facebook friends)
+Grant cleared out the front planter I have happy plans for. After doing some container gardening work on the deck yesterday I'm feeling really good about all of this. Basil, chard and surprise shasta daisies for Ananda's birthday all planted, dessert rose and gardenia transplanted, and as much sand as we want from the neighbor's mountain of it to supplement...I'm going to be baking them a thank you :)
+We dropped off the little kids at Opa's (and they had a blast)
+Grant and I took the kayak out on the lake by my sister's house, and it was wonderful ♥
+Laura gave me tons of garden fresh tomatoes and basil, again with the ♥
+A and A were picked up, came to Publix with us, lots of laughing and they acted like rehearsal was have fun, got small children,
+and dinner took awhile but was THE BOMB. Seriously, wowza, yum.
+Brownies for dessert.
+Shaun was over and loved the food. I'm emailing him said short story to read while bored at work tomorrow. Kids were psyched to see him.
+Made the old, hispanic cashier at Walgreens drop his front and laugh until he nearly died after some extremely flamboyant drag queens paid and went. He was avoiding eye contact at all costs and trying so hard to be professional, and I just shrugged and said "Nosotros cerca de Miami" (we're close to Miami) and he lost it. Like, beating the counter with his palms and tears rolling down his face lost it. Eventually he said "No commienta" (no comment). We were the only ones in the store and he really had the air of someone who has just never encountered someone who is 7 feet tall counting the platform shoes and who's men's underwear is actually showing below the hem of their cocktail dress.

-Grant seems to be getting the stomach virus :/
-we watched Boys Don't Cry tonight and I really wish I hadn't seen it. I feel like I just spent 2 hours cramming as much mud and poison into my brain as I possibly could, and now it's time to go to sleep!! Was there a single two minute period in that movie where nobody was intoxicated and hateful? How many trailer trash antics and graphic violent fight scenes can we cram into one film? I understand the agenda, but I'M ALREADY ON BOARD and sheesh, I am too effected by life in general to deal with crap like that. Also, for me, the contrasting happy moments or love story were too awash in weird hopeless ignorant dysfunction (I mean lies, lack of realism like "I'll make a living singing karaoke, and you can be my manager!", stealing cars, running from the cops and ditching court dates, along with little kids exposed to traumatizing bs and drunken mothers laid out keeping their kids trapped) for me to be exactly "swept away" by the beauty and hope. Yes, the female love interest did redeem herself to some degree by having an unconditional acceptance that set her apart when everyone else went BATSHIT INSANE, but I can't relate to the dreamy flashback of her sullenly staring in a dirty alley, blowing smoke, and think, "she *is* captivating!!!" Especially when she's the third chick he's zeroed in on in like 24 hours at that point, and he's just met her in a group of drunken assholes. Perhaps I'm too idealistic here but it's just depressing that anything about that movie encompasses real life for anyone in this country, homo- and transphobia being just one part of a shitty hopeless whole.
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I am sore and shivering with the worst freaking sunburn I've ever had in my life. I don't think I was aware I could get this sunburned. Apparently my Cuban skin has gotten used to a nocturnal lifestyle and 10-4 on a Miami beach was not in it's cards. I slathered all of my children in sunblock, and then maniacally reapplied it to Isaac every hour...putting any on myself never even occured to me o_O

The beach today was wonderful, though. It was the PATH year end party. Ananda ran around with 3-5 girls her age or older without even speaking to me for five hours straight, and Aaron found a few boys to hunt sea creatures with; they got urchins, slugs, a baby jellyfish and some sort of albino crab. All of the little kids had a blast, and I was SO PROUD OF ISAAC!! He had a great time playing in the water all day, which is just amazing for him. I kept having to call him back so he wouldn't drift out too far or run off beyond where I could see him. Which is...quite a change.

Perhaps best of all, I had a couple of really wonderful conversations. My (PATH...there are several) friend Michelle was there and it's just so easy, with her, we have so much in common but she also just exudes peace and welcome in this way I don't even know how to describe. I don't even have to think as things exit my mouth around her.

Then I talked in depth with a newer mom there for the first time, and it was just...incredible. One of those rare moments of deep connection. She is an unlikely, won't-live-on-base military wife who seeks out Orthodox priests within the bases and overwhelmingly reminds me of Dama. She has four kids. I DO NOT MEET Orthodox Christians IRL, people. But this particular one is in a huge crisis of faith because her oldest has had leukemia...twice. And both times it's been a 3 year rollercoaster (he's 14) of epic, gut wrenching proportions, and she is now at a point in life where she can't even say the Lord's Prayer without crying at the "Thy will be done" line. I know exactly what she means, because I had some serious trust/faith/anger issues when Elise was very small, that are still not completely worked out. But being so candid, and getting goosebumps for each other, to see her son digging a big trench in the beach as Elise runs up to me asking for more carrots, but mostly just LAUGHING. Is great. I was "testing the waters" today, with her and with a 3rd mom I have liked for awhile, to see what would happen if I started cursing and gossiping a bit, and was happy with what I found ;) In my natural parenting group that is par for the course but in PATH I usually keep it a little more professional because I go there more for the kids.

Pics From Today )




Some of my favorite things from this week include:

-Ananda has been giving Isaac "art classes" every morning after they've had breakfast and done their chores. Sometimes this is just her guiding him through a step by step drawing challenge from one of the learn to draw books we have. One day they made faces out of sequins on paper, with glue sticks. The best was probably the day that made sun prints. It's so good for both of them.
-Jake is all about his Kumon First Book of Cutting. He has these little red safety scissors and he takes it so seriously with his folder to put all his cut pages in.
-Ananda and Aaron's Tuesday science class was great (again!). They RAN from the van when I dropped them off and came back talking a mile a minute. When I asked Aaron what they learned about this week, he answered, "Mass, and force, and how they combine to make acceleration". I was impressed.
-Elise keeps randomly, casually saying things I had no idea she could say in ways that make me laugh...I said, hmm, I haven't seen your baby today and she said "Me either!" She fell down and hurt her face at the playground on Monday, and then fell out of the bench she was sitting on with me, afterwards, and RANTED, "Me hurt and hurt more more more MORE! No play! Go, car, now!"
-Aaron is taking an empty glass bottle - an izze bottle, so similar to a beer bottle - outside and coming in with it inhabited. He's gotten moths, a butterfly, a lizard, FOUR BEES AT ONCE (??). It's his new favorite thing.
-We're listening to an audiobook in the van whenever we're driving places. I, Coriander. It's very enveloping and well done, in writing and in voice work. Ananda and Isaac like it best, but Aaron and I do too. Jake hates it but just kind of has to deal.
-Isaac had a quarter the other day, and we were at Party City looking for little rubber snakes for Ananda's Medusa costume. They had big bins of candies and lollipops and things for .07 each. SEVEN CENTRS APIECE! He was able to get himself, Jacob and Elise each their own chosen thing, and then get 3 pennies back as change. It was like his dream come true. I also had to laugh a lot in Party City when he asked, as he does everywhere he goes, if they had quarter machines, and I said no...but then pointed out the WALL of quarter bins. Leaping plastic frogs, tops, small rubber frogs, bouncy balls, tiny pads of paper, you know...but 30 choices. He started jumping up and down with his eyes bulging, unable to believe it.
-we have their costumes all done for Historically Speaking tomorrow...Ananda will be in head to toe black (including gloves and socks) with snakes pinned throughout her hair. She will, at one point, look at Aaron,a nd he will stiffen and fall over. Aaron, as Orpheus, will have a sheet toga look with people helping him act out his story (i.e., Ananda and Isaac holding tree branches and following him around, and me rolling a rock towards him from the audience). Isaac's cracks me up the most, as Narcissus he's going to be holding this little hand mirror and gazing at himself lovingly. Which actually comes very natural to him ;)
-I'm finally, actually reading A Tree Grows In Brooklyn and really digging it. I can be seen lolling about on park benches reading when I've finished whatever phase of Annie's birthday sewing I brought with me
-Grant and I watched Sherlock Holmes. It is silly and Hollywood but totally entertaining the whole way through. I could have DONE WITHOUT THE PIG SCENE *surgical shudder*




This is big!! I will probably be talking it up semi-often in the coming weeks so bear with me, ok? I'm now selling Usborne Books! Usborne publishes books with vivid, awesome illustrations, wording really geared to pulling reluctant readers in, and nothing "commercial" - there are no tv, movie or video game characters to lead your kid back to a screen. They range from board books to chapter books, with lots of fairy tales, science and everything you can think of in between. We have plenty, purchased from our hometown bookstore over the last couple of years. I'm seriously considering doing this indefinitely, but for now it is a marvelous fundraiser set up by the illustrious [livejournal.com profile] mommydama. All profits are going to help Aaron get to New York, so his Hip Hop class can compete in Break the Floor's JUMP finale. This is the link to my store:
http://www.myubam.com/ecommerce/default.asp?sid=H3224&gid=98260652

Usborne is loved by homeschoolers, but NOT exclusively. They often make great gifts because some are loaded with "extras" - pull out posters, general "features" kids love. And they are very reasonably priced, I think - my mother in law bought a big "Illustrated Dictionary of Math" for my niece the other night, and it was $12.99. Anyway, feel free to ask any questions you may have here or by emailing me. Please feel free to pass that link on!!
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I didn't take any pictures today but I've really dug this Mother's Day. Mental snapshots:

-Waking up and immediately being surrounded by little people bearing homemade cards, yard-picked flowers and handmade necklaces. I've been wearing the one from Isaac all day.
-My mother in law nervously giving me a card about how daughter in law loses the "in law" part at some point and us hugging after she anxiously watched me read it
-Jake and Elise, FILTHY, standing there naked in a bubble bath eating watermelong with huge toy dinosaurs floating at their feet
-Grant and I sitting outside of Starbucks on the sidewalk talking and laughing
-Eating this incredible dinner Grant made with panko breadcrumb'ed fried chicken, roasted cauliflower and potatoes and sauteed shrooms
-Sitting around the table with a couple of kids, and Bob, who I was managing to talk and laugh with so easily and happily without any weird baggage like I haven't in...years, maybe
-Getting down a ton of big blown up framed photography of Grant's, from where it's been stacked up collecting dust, and realizing we can hang all this immediately

As always, my favorite thing about Mother's Day is this video:






I'm putting some stuff strongly inspired by this image on a purple tshirt for Ananda as one of her birthday presents:

I'm really happy about how it's coming out so far; who knew fabric scraps could do such interesting things? I want it to be a surprise so I'm having to be sly. I'm also making her some other things, like a tote bag I think she'll love, and something I haven't decided on that will include this embroidery:


We're jointly planning to make an owl pinata (paper mache) and stuff it with brownies and oatmeal raisin cookies, all saran wrapped individually. She's been telling friends she'd like to have her party at Jacob's Aquatic Center. I got her a very hippy-fied sort of stationary set a couple of weeks ago at Ross, that has been hiding out in the top of my closet.

The only thing I have for Aaron so far (he's a month after) is a St Francis picture I actually got for him for Christmas and forgot about because it was tucked away. He loves St Francis because he could call the animals to him, charm the birds down from the trees and all that. When we last asked the question, "What super hero power would you like to have?" that was his answer.




My formspring video is made, it's just FORTY FOUR minutes of me answering FIFTY questions O_O So, Grant took a couple of goes at compressing the file today before he got the aspect ratio right and tonight it will be uploading to Vimeo as we sleep. I watched it once to make sure there was nothing especially horrible about it, and I can already hear the responses rolling in :p Aside from how the lighting makes it look as though my lips don't exist (really, it's weird), I at one point go from "number 1" to "and, b". Because that's the way I roll. It's only too bad I never got a drink during it, because I spill drinks all over myself about 75% of the time I take a sip of something ;) It was fun.




A few nights ago G and I watched the movie Whip It, starring that chick who played Juno. In Whip It she is a secretly rebellious teenager who keeps sneaking away from her sleepy little town to take the old folks' Bingo bus to a bigger city where she is lying about her age to be a part of the Roller Derby team. Her mother is a real 50s-era, southern, beauty-pageants-for-my-daughters type. Anyway it turned out a lot better than I expected, highly entertaining. It has surprise big names playing minor roles, like the leads are all unknows but Juliette Lewis, Drew Barrymore and Jimmy Fallon are small side parts.

I think we're watching Sherlock Holmes tonight.
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Sunday I took Ananda, Aaron and Isaac to Mass at 8:00 at Sacred Heart, then came home and the 7 of us all went to City Church. Mass included Here I Am, Lord as the communion hymn, which some people who know me in real life will realize instantly melts me into a gooey puddle. It was just a Good Thing, all around. City Church was fun for the kids - the message gave me a lot to think about. Apparently City Church is operating, as part of some branch or other of Presbyterians, under the assumption that we are living in a post-Christian America and that, as such, their primary job is to reach the unchurched locals (rather than going overseas on mission trips or catering to established Christians who are already here). They seek to do this through creating what sociologists call "the third place", i.e., what Starbucks or the sports bar is to people. This is why they have cooking classes, agnostic art hanging everywhere, and play music that is not specifically categorized as Christian, and they are taking it to the extent of saying, we will have communion and hymns at special believers-only worship services, but in the main this church is for this city, not for us in-crowd Christians. And that we Christians have to be in the culture and not segregated and a whole lot more stuff. I really do believe they're coming from a prayerful and sincere place and that they are doing something good, but I am not always sure if it is something Holy or even big g Good.

Anyway the Catholics were certainly up in the culture and reaching out to the city when they were paying my electric bill and giving me bags of groceries while I was a confused, Protestant, 19 year old single mother. Without any sermons or judgement or even the kind of proof of need that the government programs require.

I've been thinking about this kind of stuff a lot. Catholic Hospice here in the greater Miami area is a free service to people of all faiths, no strings or dirty looks attached. The Vatican has embraced Harry Potter as a story that teaches children that there is a difference between good and evil and that we all face temptations and choices, and that love conquers all and sacrifice and mothers and blah blah blah. Evangelical right-wing so and sos are the ones warning parents their kids will be led astray by J.K.Rowling.

I am, like, 5 minutes from deciding I am becoming a Catholic. I may also keep going to City Church indefinitely in addition, and supporting their ministry, because I certainly was led to God through loving people in a really liberal Protestant denomination who appealed to me as an "unchurched person". I do think that is important. And City Church IS becoming an amazing cultural center, and it's also like 5 blocks away from my house.

I've also finished reading Called Out of Darkness, Anne Rice's "spiritual confession" of her conversion, or really return, to faith. I relate to SO MUCH SHE HAS TO SAY HERE. I know what it's like to question for the reasons she did, to see the ultimate GOOD in non-Christian people with moral compasses that have nothing to do with God, to grapple with gay loved ones vs church teachings and all of it - her faithful explanations of how Christian holidays can tie in with pre-dating Pagan rituals and. Just wow. Not to mention, I read all those Vampire books, and I have made up my own fictional characters, and I can FEEL how intensely difficult it would be to LET GO of something like Lestat, just let go after 8 books and 27 years - after major Hollywood movies and a critically acclaimed Broadway musical and Fan Clubs to your idea by the dozen - and say...that's all. I'm writing for God. Most of my fans will hate it and it's not going to be nearly so easy as slipping into this dark delicious world of yours, but you aren't even real. This is real.

I'm trying to wade through copious amounts of reviews to see whether or not I should read her Christ the Lord series (so far there are two - Out of Egypt and The Road to Cana). On the one hand, I do believe she is coming from a real experience of God to make this decision to write about the Life of Christ with deep research and Orthodox theology backing up her fictional fill in details. On the other hand, Life of Christ + Fictional Fill in details = Does not compute. She's writing in first person AS GOD. The lay people and the clergy both seem split on this, as far as I can tell, some wholeheartedly endorsing and others totally against it.

Meanwhile, I've begun doing things like asking for the intercession of St Jude, patron saint of lost and impossible causes, on behalf of my Nana, and putting the Lives of the Saints on my Amazon wishlist, and trying not to project onto Grant that he sees me as a silly superstitious twit.




My Pa - my healthy, white Pa, other half of "Nana and" - came down here for a visit. It's the first time he's been back since they sold their house and moved away 5 years ago, and so he was blown away by the enormous amount of new housing and shopping and the expanded hospital and the restaurants and theater and really, there are just whole new sections of town that didn't exist 5 years ago. We have traffic now. Anyway, I spent a lot of Sunday showing him around, having lunch with him at Gusto's, and taking him to visit with Laura and Brian (Frank was on shift). Then most of Monday was spent taking the kids and meeting Laura's family and him at the zoo, where we spent the afternoon, and then having thai food. I posted pics from that zoo trip. The thai food, I do not even know, I am ADDICTED to this panang curry with lamb at Stir Moon, it's a coconut curry full of lime leaves and read chilies that I spoon all over the bowl of brown rice it comes with...*shudders of bliss*

Pa and I had some time spent talking about Nana, and he had a private trip to the cemetary to view their plots (still here from when they bought them years ago before they moved away) and go over paperwork. Mostly though I was so happy to see him able to be cheered up by his grandkids and distracted by good food and willing to laugh at jokes and things. I wish he would consider moving down here.




Monday night I had a Birthgirlz meeting. It was energizing, and exciting, and FREAKING AWESOME. I'm going to be dropping a stack of handouts out at my old chiropractor's office about this upcoming event they're having - http://birthgirlz.com/UpcomingEvents.html As well as asking him to become a sponsor of it.

AND I'm going to be talking with the bookstore family about having the next Soap Box Derby there.

AND I'm going to talk to Schnebly about sponsoring their fundraising gala, AND talk to the string quartet that plays at City Church about playing there.

AND that "Pusing for VBACs" thing I urged people to donate to awhile ago? Over $10,000 has poured in. They're hiring the litigation attorney, with enough for his retainer and a bit more - they will need more money before it's all over as it's about a $15,000 journey all told. So if you'd like to help them get through this end game with the total, here is the link - http://birthgirlz.com/URGENTActionRequired.html

And/or, if you'd like to help us establish the FIRST Mother-Friendly hospital in Miami-Dade county, you can sign this petition we're working on - Jackson South's maternal care model is currently being revamped so this is the perfect time and they are actually acting receptive, and anyone anywhere can sign this - http://www.ipetitions.com/petition/motherfriendlyinmiami/ PLEASE DO!

AND, I have to find out what if anything Nancy is going to charge us to speak at our Birth Film Festival in February.

AND, they have ACTUALLY GOTTEN A HEAD OF A LOCAL UNIVERSITY TO AGREE TO HAVE MED STUDENTS SHADOW MIDWIVES AND DOULAS AS PART OF THEIR INTERNSHIP HOURS. This is so huge, I teared up with goosebumps when I heard it. What a massive difference it could make.

And...I have to write this whole c/s book because I am tired of telling the story of why I appear to be pregnant to people who gasp with horror and urge me to please, PLEASE WRITE A BOOK ABOUT THIS.




At that meeting, my friend Michelle gave me a free pass to an advance screening of Julie and Julia for Tuesday night. She somehow got many of these. And I met a big old group of peeps at CocoWalk in the Grove to see it, and sat next to my friend Kristin and laughed my head off during the HOUR we waited for it to start because someone important who had flown in for it was late? Anyway, yeah, the movie was really good, too, and perfect for right then. I had left italian pot roast loaded with (3) onions, (25+ cloves) garlic, (3 crates of) mushrooms, broth and stock and (lots of) basil from the garden baking for hours and hours at 250 degrees after being browned in olive oil, for my family's dinner. So watching AAAaaall those shots of beef bourginon(sp?) had me AMPED to get home and have leftovers. Meryl Streep WAS that woman, she is incredible. Kristin was like, "I want that bag!" "I want that car!" etc, throughout the whole vintage looking movie, and we were moaning at the rasberry cream and recoiling in horror about the beef flavored jello that solidifies in the fridge after you boil a hoof for long enough. Good times.

Then today while Shaun watched the younger 3, Grant and I took Ananda and Aaron to see Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince. I should note that yesterday Isaac asked if he could go see it too and I told him I needed to watch it to see if it was too scary first. He said, well, what about Annie and Aaron? I told him that they are so deeply invested at this point that even if they do have nightmares for the next 6 months, it is worth it to them. Both of them were instantly like, "Yep."

They liked it. We all jumped at one point, laughed at others. I cried a little. Aaron got really sad and came out subdued. Annie was walking on air. As usual I am bemused by the spectacle of 3 previously unknown kids who can't really act getting to star in front of millions of dollars of special effects and an INCREDIBLE, widely respected supporting cast. They're doing better, though. Kind of. I was impressed with how much of the book was in it but baffled by the extraneous extra scene they threw in.

Grant and I both burst into hysterical laughter at the ridiculous New Moon trailer, but we are all psyched to see this new Where the Wild Things Are when it comes out. That trailer actually gives me goosebumps. We've been watching the old Scholastic dvd version with barely-animated book pages for years. G was actually coincidentally wearing a WTWTA shirt in the theater today.




To Conclude:
-Ananda is actually getting to a point now with daily practice where I think we can say "she knows how to ride a bike". This is so long in coming. I'm very proud of her uncharacteristic perseverance - today even when she had a bleeding arm. Well, once she got past her initial near faiting due to seeing her own blood. She walked it for about two blocks, but then rode home with me, even though her face was the wrong color.
-My left wrist has been hurting when used for anything much for a couple of weeks, but has started this new trick where it swells all the way to my fingers or hurts terribly when I'm doing nothing at all. My paranoia coupled with amateur googling has me half-convinced it's diabetes related gout, which would be sucky because, you know, that would mean I am diabetic.
-BUT. I've lost 5 pounds already since quitting sugar and white flour. And I'm being a stickler to bike or walk or somehow excercise every single day. Which aside from making me less fat can also often stop/reverse new cases of diabetes.
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I was in this ridiculous funk during his last group of work days (he does either 3 or 4 12 hour shift days - plus commute - in a row each week, then is off for 3 or 4 days until the next week's shifts start up). He and I had stuff to work through...not horrible stuff, but stuff causing tension, and it's really hard to do that through email and the occasional interrupted phone call. I'm really sensitive to any slight problem we're having and it just eats away at me all day long to know there's something being left there to fester.

I also have a hard time reverting back from active days - last week for instance I biked with Aaron for 40 minutes Sunday, walked for an hour with the double stroller Monday, and swam with Ananda for an hour on Tuesday. Then Grant went to work and W-S I had no way to break from having all five kids and so it gets really complicated trying to do any kind of continuous excercise. I have a really, really hard time with recorded workouts and floor excercises, or any kind of gym type repetetive indoor junk. The best I manage with the kids is slower walks, often shorter; whole afternoons cleaning; and sometimes danceathons with them. The point is, I can start to feel really sedentary and cooped up. I spend tons more time stuck in the van on his work days, too, as that's when pretty much all of their activities happen to fall.

AND, it was a nice sleep-free 4 days between late night allergy attacks waking me and Elise's increasing failure to co-sleep like a rational human being (she's being transferred to the toddler bed now).

All of this culminated in me irreparably burning soup I was making for a potluck we were already running late for while I typed another emotional email back to Grant at some frantic pace - I smelled it and ran for the kitchen...just as Jake peed in the clean clothes I had set out for the little kids to wear when we left and I dunno. A friend posted this, and I really needed it -



I pretty much could have written those lyrics, and the energy, it was perfect. The video is a huge part of my perception of the song. I called to cancel our potluck attendance, and cried, and had a danceathon with Jake and Elise, and then Grant came home. Since then, the songs for living by are;

-That one, Feist's "I Feel it All"
-Feist's "1234"
-MGMT's "Kids"
-MGMT's "Time to Pretend"

The last two are not songs I'd have written the lyrics to ;) The videos are also ridiculous. Great for turning dishes into a danceathon, though. G and I are pretty much keeping that playlist on repeat in every room of the house and both vehicles.

SO.

We all went to church Sunday, and it was good, and then we dropped Ananda, Aaron and Elise off with my sister, and Jake and Isaac off with my mother in law, and hit it up to the metrorail station just the two of us, where we caught a train to Viscaya...

(camera phone)

I'd never been before. It was pretty awesome. I was excited to see, as we turned one corner of the place, that we were on the ocean...I'd had no idea and oh my how I love being near/in the ocean. The place is just incredible. We spent about 6 hours out alone together with what I would call the ideal balance between Serious Talk and Laughing Our Heads Off, with some nice food and kissing breaks. Also both of us had sore legs from all the stairs everywhere - wth, when did we get so out of shape?

We watched Appaloosa one of these nights, and started The Fall tonight. Pretty great stuff.

Some "out by ourself" or "with just one kid" times for each of us. Some really great extended and miraculously uninterrupted lovemaking.

I'm normal again.

I want to talk about a billion other things, but I'm going to be scattering about 20 pictures through it all, so you'll have to Join Me Behind This Cut )




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General Health
-as in charting everything I eat via Weight Watchers points
-excercise, like riding bikes for 40 minutes Sunday with Aaron, walking with the double stroller (J&E) for an hour Monday, swimming with Annie for an hour yesterday
-general rollercoaster between feeling accepting of myself and good about my progress, and self-loathing with fits of disgust and hopelessness(that is usually a 15 minute burst when I try to find something to wear each morning or fresh from the shower).

Re-establishing my faith in a deeper way
-church had a big communion service and we sang Amazing Grace and I was basically a happy wreck. Then came a week of spiritual battle type stuff that had me struggling bad, and now I feel like I've sort of come out the other side.
-plus it's Lent, and I keep revisiting that, mentally and with study

Grant and I
-There is a lot of lingering weariness in him from my long year of being severely complicated, sensitive, sleepless and hysterical (FOR ME!!) from ptsd
-and lingering resentment from us having to wade through what is ok with both of us, for either of us, in a bunch of different ways
-but we still hug and kiss and mean it everyday...and go to bed happy everynight. It's just been too many strained, pained conversations ending with cuddling and sighs.
-I am really fucking blessed to have a man who goes to scripture when he's mad at me and comes back talking about how he's supposed to sacrifice himself to me as Christ sacrificed himself for all of us, acting genuinely humble and saying it's time for a massage. I mean...*blinkblink*

Gardening
-tomatos need staked soon, basil seeds have finally popped out through the dirt, it all gets watered every other day
-butterfly garden flower assortment has yet to pop through, watering that flower bed about three times a week
-lantanas in the front are starting to get overgrown, we fixed the falling brick wall yesterday and I'll be pruning them asap
-new and newly transplanted gardenia is getting pruned as the flowers die and it and this other thing I have on the front porch get watered daily
-all the philodendrons on top of the kitchen cabinets need to be watered once a week, which is only noteworthy because I have to use a stepladder
-trying to keep Isaac watering his little window garden that he got for his birthday...the seedlings are looking battered, though

Kids!
-A and A have been doing Abeka and cursive practice about every other day, and we've gotten them back into RightStart math manipulatives and science experiments here and there throughout the week
-they LOVE church and I get compliments every week that they go
-I'm reading her an Amelia Earheart biography and him a Harry Houdini bio, so they can get ready to dress up as those people and talk about "themselves" at PATH's "Historically Speaking" event later this month
-they're starting our local Friday School (a homeschool co-op deal where we all volunteer and pool resources) - she in ceramics, Junior Chefs and piano, and him probably in tai kwon do, piano and chess
-they're both really puberty-oriented lately, constantly asking me questions and pouring over their boy and girl versions of "What's Happening to Me?" with and without me
-and then there's AWANA on Weds, PATH on Thursdays, Game Night on Fridays...
-we're trying to get Jake and Elise out of our bed in earnest
-Isaac and I spent a long time browsing around blogs, flickr groups and tutorial sites yesterday and now there are multiple things he wants me to make him, that I've promised him in priority order (starting with a vine hung with flowers to hang along his wall)
-reading to youngest three everyday, even if just one book each
-ELISE PEED IN THE POTTY FOR THE FIRST TIME!!! We aren't pushing her at all, but we've made it available and talk about it sometimes and she's naked about half the day so long as we're home and inside
-trying to be consistent and serious enough to get Jake's temper under control

Writing
-Seven of 12 short stories for a themed collection are done
-Title, outline, table of contents, intro and beginning of first chapter are done for c/s book, and I've also amassed a long, long file including book titles, studies done, documentaries to watch, people to interrogate, university libraries I need to plunder online, etc, labeled "RESEARCH"
-email to myself full of possible agents for these things, previously completed works and another book I'm not ready to talk about, done, so I can start querying people
-I think about this stuff all day long but only get to work on it if I can outlast everyone and still concentrate, late at night, or in the 1-6 hours I get when Grant is off, to go off on my own for writing (just depends on everything else going on). And I'm working on a lot at once. So it's all very slow going, which I'm dealing with pretty well.

Animal Care
-cats need new food twice a day and new litter once a week
-chicks need to be checked on fairly often, have recently moved on from a little paper lined bird cage to the big portable rabbit pen on top of a spread-out sleeping bag, and make a giant mess of my office on a regular basis with their dust and fluff and scratching and shredding of paper. They'll be outside in a run/coop soon, and suddenly be much simpler then
-rabbits are "A and A's responsibility", which means I have to constantly remind them to change the box, check their water, get chewables off their bedroom floor, and oversee time the bunnies spend running around the house/help lure them out from under the couch to go back to the bedroom

tv/movies with G at night
-We only watch downloads and things from hulu.com, no cable or whatever, but that still means Lost and The Office every week. Usually a day or two late, which means Thursday is a fearful day I avoid the internet because SPOILERS ARE EVERYWHERE.
-and in the last week we've seen Smart People(we'll finish this tonight...), He Was a Quiet Man(very dissapointing, typical "independant film" ending),Secretary (again), Henry Poole is Here(mind-numbingly dull, I think we both fell asleep 3/4 of the way through and were relieved when it ended)

CROCHET!
-I'm totally addicted to the granny square and hexagon love pools on flickr, every project Attic24 posts, and a couple of books of my own
-I have this massive pile of Lion Brand wool-ease yarn that I rearrange in different color combinations and a notebook full of project ideas with url or page notations, and it's all changing all the time


Overall, I am very busy in a relaxed way, my house is a total mess almost all of the time, and I'm happy :)
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Because I used to devote most to all of every single day solely to my children, I am constantly feeling mother-guilt for the past few months.

Alright, I started constantly feeling mother guilt in mid-2007. I was mostly emotionally unavailable and somewhat physically unavailable for 3 1/2 weeks after Elise was born, and then extremely distracted and preoccupied with her therapies, medicine dosing, doctor visits, my research about her, etc, for the next couple of months. I did pretty well; I continued to give the other four a lot. I was actually being some sort of martyr as I was DYING two Falls ago; the day before I was checked into the hospital for emergency surgery I drove Annie to ballet and read to everyone before bed and nursed Jake like usual right along with Elise and cooked a good dinner.

But then I was yanked out of my house completely for 10 days. Sat around in a hospital bed watching TLC and wondering if I would live with only adults coming and going for TEN. DAYS. And went back unable to lift my own baby for over a month, or be jumped/climbed on, and it's just never gotten back to where it was before. I've been "self-centered" in a way I never was before...I put it in quotes because a lot of it is involuntary or even horrible, not the sort of vanity self-centeredness typically implies to me...but either way, I'm more centered on ME than I used to be, and less so on the tiny people around me.

In some ways, it's actually a positive shift for us as a family. I really value taking time to go swim, or to write, I've been drawing and obviously counseling is tremendously helpful. All these things really only add up to a few hours a week. But then Grant and I are also increasingly feeling justified in locking ourselves in a room together or ordering everyone else out of the room we're in, for sex but just as often for simple talking without interruptions. We get at least 30 minutes per day, these days, of time sequestered from the children just the two of us behind a closed door - as well as a 5 hour block on Sundays when the nanny comes and we go out and eat and see a movie or whatever we feel like (this is the only time she's still coming, now, aside from being booked in advance for our solo anniversary trip). It's been GREAT for our marriage on soooo many levels. I feel like we really HAVE a relationship separate from the kids. An actual adult relationship that is just about us being in love and wanting to be together that has nothing to do with family responsibilities. <3

Happy as heck in my marriage, getting better all the time personally, social life in general improving...but the ghost of my former self dissaproves and I can't ever quite get used to motherhood not being...everything. I have a lot of kids, after all. They're still quite young. They'll only be that way once. Right?

I just have a totally different paradigm than I used to. Which makes sense in reference to Ananda and Aaron, because they're 8.5 and 7.5 and far more independant. It's perfectly fine for them to spend half the day reading chapter books and playing musical instruments on their own. I'm not sure if it's fair to Isaac, Jake and Elise. Who knows, you know?

I was tallying it up today, though, and I really kind of sell myself short. I was wrapping up the evening feeling very guilty, as per usual, that I don't do nearly as much with them as I used to and am so oriented on grown up things. I've been back in touch with an old high school friend who I still care about a lot this week - there've been several phone calls, I got a letter and am writing her back. No arts and crafts, though, no '3 and up' board games. But the tally, for today:

-I drove Ananda to counseling and back, talking with her all the while both ways, much of it educational about bacteria, hospitals, mosquito-born diseases, tropical climates and safe water, all kinds of stuff.
-got everyone a good lunch and sat with them to eat
-read Jake a book
-endless amounts of nursing, cuddling, diaper changing, snuggling and playing with Elise, who is clingtastic and endlessly affection-hungry throughout the day
-put a movie on for Jake
-stood Jake in the corner once and had a talk with him at least 5 times, mostly for violence towards other kids or cats
-guided everyone through getting their shoes, finding warmer clothes, etc, and (with Grant) took them all out to the everglades for dinner Outside, including me taking the older three on a short little hike down to some water
-on the way, drew A and A a map of Florida with all of "our" points of interest and familiar towns and landmarks on it, and we talked about it
-planned a whole-family 3 day 2 night camping trip for Grant's next block of 4 days off (week after next)
-went in the pet store with only Aaron to find his cat a leash, while we picked up litter and more hay for the bunnies
-read half an HP chapter to A and A after making them and Isaac brush their teeth
-made Jake and Isaac go back to bed a million times
-got Elise to sleep

So that is actually a lot of parenting. It is not as sucky as I feel like it is. I feel the void, though. The void wherein:

-I slept in and everyone scrounged around for bagels or cereal for breakfast on their own, which is all too common lately
-I talked to G on the phone and then drew in my sketchbook, by myself, while Annie was in counseling
-Grant and I escaped to the bedroom alone for half an hour in the afternoon, with Bee Movie on for the kids, while Elise was napping
-I spent about 40 minutes ignoring everyone and researching overnight trips we could take (just the two of us) for Valentine's Day, and contacted my sister about whether she'd like to have that childcare endeavor. I'm all hyped up about Grant and I traveling by ourselves ever since I got the idea for our anniversary. Not for long periods of time, but...for little periods of time ;) A couple of times a year.

Nobody, like, got a bath. The littlest two didn't brush their teeth before bed. There wasn't any formal sit down schoolwork even though it was a schoolday. I somehow missed Isaac completely at almost every turn, though he was with me for the mini-hike and Grant took him out to the store alone for dinner supplies. I don't know what I really think about any of this sort of thing anymore. My thought process goes;

I want my bed back.
I already miss Jake not sleeping with us!
I have to get more rest, and I want privacy with Grant.
Once Elise is out of the bed, that's the LAST CO-SLEEPING BABY out of the bed forever :/
I'm sick of getting woken up over and over.
G and I have never once went anywhere just the two of us, it's high time after 8 years.
But to Jake and Elise it hasn't been 8 years, they might not be ready to be without us for more than 24 hours.
Yet, they'll have their siblings to help in a way the older ones would not have.

Etc.




I have the hardest parts of my c-section book done. That is;

-There is a title
-I've organized my ideas and plans into chapter headings and know what I'm putting in, and in what order
-The forward is written, which establishes the tone

It may not sound like much, but it is the fruition of TONS of thought and frustration, and will make it so that the rest will fly by almost on autopilot. This is how I used to write papers for school - 3 times as long for the outline as for the actual filling in of the outline and then some edits and I'd be done.

There is a lot of research to be able to cite sources still in my future, but I can deal with that. Especially since research is something I can do with interruptions, unlike the writing itself.

Also...my collection of short stories is more than half done! And. I really think it's good. That also has a title ;)

And I have a couple of things to submit to magazines after one more edit and an idea for another book that I'm almost having to sit on my hands to not start writing before I finish some other things.

I wish I had more time to write. But I'm not really willing to take it from our family. It's hard...I'm SO hoping the littlest kids' bedtime scheduling transition is done soon, which will free up some nighttime hours for me in a way I can live with. Until then, I'm basically writing on Monday afternoons after therapy and in fits and starts when people seem occupied, or if I'm not too bone tired, once they're in bed.




Speaking of once they're in bed. Geez Louise, tonight is a perfect example of "Why I can't lose weight". I've been doing great - eating small frequent meals throughout the early and mid part of the day, and slowing down a lot as it gets later. I did 40 solid minutes of swimming on Monday. I'm drinking a ton of water.

Today had been a good day. A long day, but good. And I had a much earlier dinner than usual, which helped make up for it being a less than stellar meal. I was so tired and we'd been out running around in the Everglades so we had all the kids in bed by like 9:15 (early for them). TWO HOURS later, all five were still awake - Grant had the power cut to our room and A and A's room since he was installing a new ceiling fan, and they claim they can't sleep without their music. Isaac didn't have his blanket, and when I tossed it to him from the doorway after retrieving it, it hit the light fixture on THEIR ceiling fan in a way that made the thing drop like a bomb and shatter on the tile. Grant thinks he didn't tighten it properly after changing the bulb last time. Under Jake and Isaac's beds, in the bunny pen, out to the hallway, there was just glass everywhere. A and A had to take their bunnies out and the light had to be on for me to sweep, sweep again, shake things out, vaccum, vaccum more, sweep again. There was glass DUST in the grout all over the room.

Finally Grant was going to bed. He'd gotten the new fan in, everyone but Jake and Elise were sleeping, he has to get up early tomorrow. I was trying to lay down with Elise with him, and was sooooo sleeeepy, which is rare and precious for me...I have horrible insomnia since this ptsd shit started. So it is really especially irritating to actually feel sleep is possible, and have to get up. But I did. This is over 3.5 hours after bedtime routines were begun.

So I am out here in the big empty main part of the house, with Elise, who is hyper and clingy at the same time - basically, wanting to be actively engaged constantly. Which was fine for the first hour and a half she'd done it before G went to bed and before I was sick of it.

Exhausted. Frustrated. No energy, no end in sight. I always head for the fridge.

I ate a handful of olives. A baby carrot. A leftover hot dog from earlier this evening that we brought back home with us, on the (whole wheat) bun. Quite a lot of chips and dip, which we don't even usually have in the house. One of Grant's carbonated juice pseudo-sodas. Then I got inspired and found the probably-too-old vanilla ice cream in the back of the freezer, filled a bowl with it, and topped it with crumbled graham crackers and sliced strawberries. Which I highly reccomend, btw. All this was in, like, 30 minutes tops. After midnight.

Then Elise went to sleep and I got to stay up with my regret and wish I knew how to make myself puke. Blah. Far too tired to even dream of excercising (it's almost 2 am now).

I know that it's my fault and my problem that I try to cope with tiredness and frustration this way. AND YET, if I had it my way, I would have just went to sleep and been fine. It's so hard this way, the staying up late with one or two stragglers is a HUGE part of my problem (and the resultant sleep deprivation plays hell with my metabolism).




Movie Reviews:
The Curious Case of Benjamin Button was SO imaginative, creative, original, thought-provoking...so well done in terms of acting and makeup. I cried a little once and laughed several times. AND YET...because the love story was not one I could relate to, the peripheral relationships were kind of eyebrow-raising for me, and the main plot is not really something any of us can relate to - and it was a period film from another time...I don't know, it was just sort of forgettable after all was said and done. I have all this intellectual praise for it but emotionally it didn't really connect. I think it was worth seeing, and better than some other things I've seen lately, just not quite all I expected.

The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind is something I've seen before, once, years ago, and I was blown away by it then, and again last night. I mean damn, GENIUS. It's just...it blows my mind. And now that I've had a lot more experience being under varying degrees of anesthesia with people talking around me, that aspect was a lot more intense for me. And now that I know a lot more about neurology, that aspect was a lot more engrossing for me. And...yeah. Anyone who has not seen this just MUST. Anyone who has, watch it again!
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I spent all day yesterday cleaning like a mofo. It was another of those times I'd been neglecting it and everything had gone to seed. So to speak ;) Once again I have conquered the piles of laundry, hand washed all the diaper covers, cleared all the living room clutter and created floor space in the kids' room...

In the evening we went up to the mall, Grant has someone there who he's doing a site for so he had a meeting. I was at the food court with the kids getting subs - which was a total headache of the guy not understanding that as a pregnant woman I need the MEAT ONLY heated to the point of steaming, and the giant family in front of us ordering didn't speak any english, etc - and then as we were eating I spotted my old friend Ruth. From what I could gather in our visit, she dresses super stylishly, has short elfish hair, a thick Miami cuban accent, and is getting a job at an all girls school for at risk teens. She's going to be teaching kids 6th-11th grade, which is a pretty broad range - and it's crazy how the freaking AT RISK GIRLS' school is more "sane and rational" for her than Homestead High, where they have the swat team out front for violent crime once a week and drug deals go down in class...

Anyway, yeah, Homeschool all the way :P

She sees Memo sometimes, at ArtSouth, but not as recently as I have, and she's single. And still very very small :) (4'11" when she tries, I believe it is). She made the kids laugh a lot by chasing them around like a sumo wrestler in the middle of the food court :D

I made this INCREDIBLE pot roast the other night, based on a link for stroccato that I got from Sara/[livejournal.com profile] rainingkisses. You rub salt and pepper all over a big old roast and then fry it in a little olive oil, just enough to brown it on all sides. Then take it out of the oil, and dump 2 whole sliced onions and 6 mincedcloves of garlic into the oil. Add 1 3/4 cups of beef broth, 1 cup of chicken stock (that was my doing, they called for red wine but we didn't have that at the time) and rosemary. We also added some fresh basil from the garden at this point. Then add a whole mess of thickly sliced mushrooms (it called for dried porcini, which we would have had to drive all the way to Wild Oats for, and this came out wonderful...) And once all the onions are soft and the liquid has bubbled and all that, pour it all over the roast in a giant roasting pan and bake it at 350 for THREE HOURS. When I went to take it out of the pan with some tongs, it fell into 4 pieces. So good. I can't even describe it. We had it with my chunky homemade tomato and spinach sauce on whole wheat pasta, sprinkled in mozzarella cheese. Grant actually told me it's one of the best meals he's ever had in his whole life and that he would've happily paid big bucks for it in a restaurant :D

I've felt very medivel (...midevil...medievil...how the heck do you spell that?) all week having big plates of red grapes or sliced mangos with cold leftover roast beef, for lunch. I eat it all with my hands like some sort of royal, sloppy monarch. Sometimes I think my pregnant body would happily exist on nothing but meat and fruit.

I feel stylish as heck today, which is silly. But this olive green maternity tshirt [livejournal.com profile] talula_fairie sent me is the bomb. I've had it in the bottom of a basket forever with some things I didn't think I'd actually wear, because it has this stupid little tiny pocket on one side of the chest, but I tried it on and it rocks. It's a great color and fit, and actually covers the bottom of my belly.


I don't know what else to say right now. Money stress is not quite so bad as it was last week, as a couple of customers have paid Grant and he did a lot of invoicing others. We just payed the van payment, which is our biggest single bill every month, yesterday, and there is still some money around for odd grocery items or gas. There should be more coming in to help with the business' debt and put towards other bills in the next week. Still no EXTRA, but at this point "closer to enough" is feeling good.

I got out the sewing machine for the first time in forever the other night, and made Grant a new pillow with some receiving blankets and fiberfill I had laying around, and it inspired me to teach Annie about it and do a beanbag with her the next day. Now I want to sew again. I want to sell things, though. I'm working on these little wool diaper cover pants (longies for ignorant among you) for the new baby (knit and crochet) that are coming out SO WELL, and I keep thinking I should sell them, even though *I* want them. We just don't have much more stuff around for me to sell online, and there are still so many things I'd like to buy. More Burt's Bees powder and diaper rash cream for the new baby, and buttermilk bath, and 18-24 month Robeez for Isaac, as he's outgrowing his 12-18 and the Converse I got from ebay aren't going to fit him for awhile. More of these great organic cotton nighttime diapers we tried out for him.

We've watched 3 movies this week. Constantine, with Keanu Reeves, will make you laugh out loud in places at the ridiculous horror slash religious nonsense. Like when he puts on brass nuckles with crosses on them, to hit a demon with. But it was more watchable than I expected, and semi-thought provoking, even though I COULD NOT STAND their "Angel Gabriel". Ugh. Final Cut with Robin Williams was really thought provoking, the premise being that people have these little lifelong camcorders installed in their retinas before birth and then these cutters have the job of going back and editing the footage to make a short film about their life, once they've died, to be presented to remaining loved ones at a "Rememory". It ended terribly though - and by that I just mean that I thought the ending was terrible. Last night it was The Jacket with Adrien Brody and Kera Knightly. It's one of these horrific things where you see the terrible stuff that goes down in asylums, but wasn't as disturbing as I expected. Overall I think that it left me feeling happy and was the best movie of this week. Cursed Smallville episodes running out!

Sidenote: MELISSA - Do you know where my extra bobbins and other presser foot are? I noticed they were missing when I first got the machine back, but forgot about it because I wasn't using it yet. There's a big gray plastic presser foot, and another little specialty silver one, and I think 2 more bobbins, maybe 3? I also don't see the stitch ripping tool. I was thinking you might've included the little safety pins as a sort of consolation prize o_O

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