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altarflameI have a lot of lists in my head, lately.
Academic things even unschooled elementary kids really need to learn whether they like it or not, in a somewhat repetetive, "featuring reviews" sort of structured way that sometimes involves sitting down with a pencil:
-basics of reading (alphabet, letter recognition, letter writing, sounds
letters make, phonics rules) and some handwriting practice
-multiplication tables
-mechanics of carrying over and borrowing for addition and subtraction
-definition of division
-grammar
-basical physical science principles, with an emphasis on the scientific method
Things random people from the internet have done for me that have radically effected my life:
-some random people on messageboards argued with me about how gross I thought cloth diapers were, until I became a cloth diaper evangelist
-Heather, there is nowhere to start, but I guess I could begin with how she GAVE ME NANCY WAINER'S NAME AND NUMBER, and organized a grocery delivery to our apt in Boston <3 But, wait, there was also that counseling session re: my marriage that literally turned Grant and my relationship around a few months back, I mean holy crap...
-Bicrim told me I had ptsd and needed emdr. THIS IS SO HUGE.
-someone, I'm sorry I forgot your name, led me down the road to fish oil as a supplement for Elise
-many strangers worked together to SEND US $9K in 2007 O_O
-I GOT DAMA, and her daughters, which probably include a spouse for my oldest son :p
That is really scraping the surface of obvious things.
I have a mental list of money/things that cost money that we've sent out to other (individual, not charity) people on the internet, people we've never met, obviously - and I THINK it's around $20,700.
Things I feel at odds about, of late, within the scope of Catholic belief:
-Seriously kinky bdsm sex has brought Grant and I super close and made us stronger, and made me happier and more fulfilled and him less repressed and insecure. I don't feel guilty about this, and even having been a Humanae Vitae afficionado I can't figure out why I would ever think it's wrong to do this with my husband.
-I have a lot of friends with deviant sorts of lifestyles that I don't just feel like "Well that's their business" - I feel like they're right on and awesome just the way they are and couldn't even say "well..." if they tried to ask me if I think they should change.
-I want my kids to have self esteem and ambition - girls and boys, both, here, people - and not suscribe to this modest humility dynamic....basic consideration for other people? OF COURSE! Generosity? YES!! There are times to sacrifice self, and times to forgo instant gratification for responsibility, but I can't handle this "I am nothing, God is everything" vibe that gets amplified into daily life as people who never stand up for themselves or for anything, people who don't even seem to have personalities...
I was also raised around a serious lot of cussing and it comes very naturally to me, is included in all my favorite movies and much of my music, etc, and sometimes it feels truly prohibitive to me to be around people who dissaprove of "bad language" (I cannot even relate to this idea of a "potty mouth", I feel like that is just ridiculous)...this isn't (or is it?) Catholic-belief-specific...but it seems to be an automatic thing that happens around Catholics, or Orthodox people.
Things that keep me coming back at least sporatically, about Catholic belief:
-the feeling of worshipping - of being in the presence of the sacred
-the meditative and "righting" effect of praying the rosary (or any rote prayer, really), lighting candles for things, and having devotional time
-the larger community of the Church, to belong to (locally and globally), particularly in the areas of social justice and helping the poor
-this niggling surety that I have had an awful lot of "proof", over the course of my life, to be having doubts about all this now
-it's really one of the only ways/places to consistently meet non-sarcastic, warm people who are pro-children and big families
There are more but I'm out.
Academic things even unschooled elementary kids really need to learn whether they like it or not, in a somewhat repetetive, "featuring reviews" sort of structured way that sometimes involves sitting down with a pencil:
-basics of reading (alphabet, letter recognition, letter writing, sounds
letters make, phonics rules) and some handwriting practice
-multiplication tables
-mechanics of carrying over and borrowing for addition and subtraction
-definition of division
-grammar
-basical physical science principles, with an emphasis on the scientific method
Things random people from the internet have done for me that have radically effected my life:
-some random people on messageboards argued with me about how gross I thought cloth diapers were, until I became a cloth diaper evangelist
-Heather, there is nowhere to start, but I guess I could begin with how she GAVE ME NANCY WAINER'S NAME AND NUMBER, and organized a grocery delivery to our apt in Boston <3 But, wait, there was also that counseling session re: my marriage that literally turned Grant and my relationship around a few months back, I mean holy crap...
-Bicrim told me I had ptsd and needed emdr. THIS IS SO HUGE.
-someone, I'm sorry I forgot your name, led me down the road to fish oil as a supplement for Elise
-many strangers worked together to SEND US $9K in 2007 O_O
-I GOT DAMA, and her daughters, which probably include a spouse for my oldest son :p
That is really scraping the surface of obvious things.
I have a mental list of money/things that cost money that we've sent out to other (individual, not charity) people on the internet, people we've never met, obviously - and I THINK it's around $20,700.
Things I feel at odds about, of late, within the scope of Catholic belief:
-Seriously kinky bdsm sex has brought Grant and I super close and made us stronger, and made me happier and more fulfilled and him less repressed and insecure. I don't feel guilty about this, and even having been a Humanae Vitae afficionado I can't figure out why I would ever think it's wrong to do this with my husband.
-I have a lot of friends with deviant sorts of lifestyles that I don't just feel like "Well that's their business" - I feel like they're right on and awesome just the way they are and couldn't even say "well..." if they tried to ask me if I think they should change.
-I want my kids to have self esteem and ambition - girls and boys, both, here, people - and not suscribe to this modest humility dynamic....basic consideration for other people? OF COURSE! Generosity? YES!! There are times to sacrifice self, and times to forgo instant gratification for responsibility, but I can't handle this "I am nothing, God is everything" vibe that gets amplified into daily life as people who never stand up for themselves or for anything, people who don't even seem to have personalities...
I was also raised around a serious lot of cussing and it comes very naturally to me, is included in all my favorite movies and much of my music, etc, and sometimes it feels truly prohibitive to me to be around people who dissaprove of "bad language" (I cannot even relate to this idea of a "potty mouth", I feel like that is just ridiculous)...this isn't (or is it?) Catholic-belief-specific...but it seems to be an automatic thing that happens around Catholics, or Orthodox people.
Things that keep me coming back at least sporatically, about Catholic belief:
-the feeling of worshipping - of being in the presence of the sacred
-the meditative and "righting" effect of praying the rosary (or any rote prayer, really), lighting candles for things, and having devotional time
-the larger community of the Church, to belong to (locally and globally), particularly in the areas of social justice and helping the poor
-this niggling surety that I have had an awful lot of "proof", over the course of my life, to be having doubts about all this now
-it's really one of the only ways/places to consistently meet non-sarcastic, warm people who are pro-children and big families
There are more but I'm out.
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Date: 2011-08-18 06:05 pm (UTC)I think I agree with sevenmicks above about cussing as to whether it's a "sin", although I will say that I really, really hate foul language, and hate having it around me or my kids. It's one of my complaints about West Philly - we can't go anywhere without loud, foul language that just seriously makes me wince every time. I especially am offended by the f word. But it honestly doesn't bother me when you right, I think only when I hear it.
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Date: 2011-08-20 05:35 am (UTC)I think that a lot of how cussing is perceived is about how people are raised (I grew up hearing "fuck" used like "the"...it really doesn't cause the flinchy, stand out notice it sort of reaction most people seem to have for me, at all). And I think some of it is intent...for instance, cussing AT people is (in my mind) a far different thing than just cussing in conversation. At least for me, cussing in laughing conversations is just fine but yelling or anger make me tense and stressed.
I say a LOT more cussing than I use in writing :p Without that humorous or casual tone it can come off sounding FAR different than intended...