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[altarflame]

It is really, really weird to me that Johnny Depp just got announced as Sexiest Man Alive (for the second time!). Don't get me wrong, ok, Johnny Depp is really fascinating to look at, he really captivates in every role he plays, and his transformative abilities are mindblowing - my kids' minds were blown awhile back when they found out Willy Wonka and Captain Jack Sparrow were the same guy. So then I showed them pictures of Edward Scissorhands and the Mad Hatter to really explode their heads.

But...sexiest man in the whole world? Really? Johnny Depp has to have a significant amount of facial hair to even appear masculine, and he needs giant dreads and baggy clothes to camouflage his tiny scrawniness into something substantial. Also, and mainly, I've just never seen him act or seem to feel sexy. He's shy and awkward in real life and generally deeply into a character who seems asexual as all get out (Edward S, Willy Wonka, Sweeny Todd, even Captain Jack is too ridiculous and self absorbed and oblivious to really seem very interested in sex, or passionate...)

Also can I just say, Captain Jack only SEEMS attractive because we can't smell him through the screen. I've known a sea-faring, rum drinking, scurvy infested pirate type and let me tell you, it does not smell pretty.

When I think of the other sort of man who generally gets this title from People Magazine - Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Colin Farell - it really gets confusing. The other guys are generally square jawed, 5 o'clock shadow types who are old Hollywood male at a glance. Again, do not get me wrong, I cannot take my eyes off of J.D. on the screen either. But I also cannot imagine actual chemistry with him, like...at all.

Ugh, now this is caught in my head again. It's like a 6 month run every time I think of it, before I can shake it off again!

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When I first started thinking of submitting my writing formally, I had this very healthy and realistic perspective about how the publishing industry is loaded with rejection and everyone gets plenty of it. I mean...everyone-everyone, Harry Potter was rejected over and over before anyone took it, and countless "classics" were written by people nobody would give the time of day to until they had died. I was thinking my goals would not be about how many acceptances I got, but rather how many queries and submissions I sent out, as I know that persistence is a huge part of success in writing.

Then I sent out my first short article and it immediately got accepted.
I sent the same trade journal's layout department artwork and a separate person accepted that, too, another couple of days later.
And so I sent out my first novel query to an agency, all high and flying and, honestly, starting to harbor this ridiculous unspoken hope that maybe this was going to be like a hole in one for me, maybe I would beat all the odds and bypass the normal system completely.
And they said no, very politely and with a compliment.
And so I got all sensitive and irritable and proceeded to spend a whole week wasting all my writing career time on re-reading the stupid Twilight novels and making fun of them with Grant. Until today, when I realized I was getting my panties in a bunch and NOT being AT ALL perseverant.

So. Back to submitting I shall go, with Plan A back in mind re:rejection.

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Poor Isaac put his hand down on a hot stove burner tonight, right after I moved a boiling pot off of it to drain some pasta. His fingertips blistered. He was screaming HYSTERICALLY, often while panicking and hopping around, for like...half an hour. He completely refused butter, running water and frozen peas and barely allowed me to get some neosporin on the burns after a LOT OF COAXING. Then he gradually got to the "let's take deep breaths together" part of the experience, and finally turned zombie in front of Aladdin while I paced, bug-eyed, trying to shake off the anxiety. I haven't ever seen him so freaked except when he had appendicitis. And it was very random, too, I don't know what was going through his head because all of my kids help in the kitchen - where I cook constantly - basically from day 1. They know stoves are hot and you don't touch them, even if you think they're off, but sure as hell not when they're blazing red... He was sitting on counters and standing on chairs to "help" from toddlerhood just like the rest. I wonder if it was one of those compulsive things, where a kid knows something is a very bad idea but just has to set it in motion anyway, or something.

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After my month of procrastinating and plateau'ing, I've been strictly back on Eat to Live for a few short days in row. They've went 210, 209, 208, 207, each morning. So now I've lost 26 pounds from my original 233 a couple of months back. It's very heartening to have seen myself just plateau, and not re-gain anything, during my off-time.

I'm having some body issues in general, though...the last time I weighed 207, size 18 jeans fit fine. Now, with my bulging, messed up belly, I can't even wear 20s comfortably. I'm stuck in maternity jeans. I keep thinking, "SOON my old pants are gonna fit again...right?" and I think I'm not gonna be able to wear normal pants at all...until I get more surgery.

It's pretty bizarre, I appear to be a somewhat hot hourglass shape from the exact front, and from the exact back. Then I turn to the side, at all, and look obviously pregnant. I was thinking of taking some pictures to illustrate how drastically different I look head-on vs in profile, because it's kind of ridiculous.

I still FEEL really energetic and good about the weight loss, though, and I can see changes in my face and upper body as well as in how shirts fit and things. My Dad will be here day after tomorrow for Thanksgiving and he hasn't seen me since two months ago, I'm sure he will notice. My sister's husband flipped last time I went over there, because I haven't seen him so it was drastic rather than gradual for him. Which is cool. He's a brutally honest sort we say is not named "Frank" for nothing, so his compliments count more.

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Ananda especially, but also Aaron, are having a TON of success with Kumon workbooks for math. Like...Aaron has went from chronically distracted and/or begging to not have to do schoolwork to just getting it done with no arguments. Ananda has went from doing it with some complaints, when I make her, to asking to do math all day long on her own when it's not schooltime. <---- Seriously. I really love how independent it is for them, too, because as much as I believe in Right Start Math I just can't do an intensely interactive 30 minute math lesson with them - that requires 30 minutes of gathering materials, scanning and printing and planning ahead beforehand on my part - everyday. I don't HAVE a solid, undistracted hour to give to their math all the time. Isaac is also loving Kumon math, though. It is a winner around here for sure, and I've reccomended it to my mother in law for my nieces (who she raises).

Isaac is also loving the Abeka Handbook for Reading that I used with A and A. He can't get enough of it, and I find it easy to work with together out on the deck swing as we watch Elise and Jake play, or on the counter by the stove as I cook dinner. Burning aside. *sigh*

A and A have their first company production, in dance, coming up. It's not the end of the year recital that all of Dance Empire does. From what I understand Ananda will be dancing in a group, and Aaron will be doing a bunch of round offs across the stage at some point, followed by a girl who does back flips.

Grant took them to dance this evening, then they went and had pizza and drove up to Santa's by themselves. They seemed ridiculously happy when I was reading to them and praying with them before bed.

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My brother has been here for a week now. In some ways he's already very helpful - just taking out trash, moving laundry through, putting away clean dishes, making it possible for me to take a bike ride with a small child while Grant's at work or for Grant and I to go see a movie while they're all in bed. And I'm dealing ok with the hard parts I knew would come - giving up the office, extra groceries. BUT, what I did not think about enough and should have was just...having him around me all day every day. Like, I don't get any time alone at night anymore, because he will outlast me everytime. When I find time in the afternoon while my kids are all occupied, to read, he comes and sits down and starts talking like I'm not holding a book. We have an argument about whether or not we're going to listen to the death metal on his iPod everytime we get in the van to go anywhere. And then I have to hear my music through his poor tortured ears and it kind of ruins it for me. He's completely obsessed with music and really emotional about it, so it is A Big Deal and sure to visibly anger him when I tell him, no, I don't like this song actually, or that one either.

In general though I've been relieved that he's not NEARLY so angry as he used to be. Way more under control and way less volatile. I think the last year taught him something about rolling with the punches.

I'm very inordinately irritated with all the little irritating things he does, though. Like put his constantly-frozen water bottle on parts of unsuspecting peoples' bodies to startle them, and fart and then giggle...both all day long. Purposely burping as loud as possible and with an air of knowing he's pretty impressive. Teaching my kids to say "Duh". It probably doesn't help that he arrived with my period and as I went back to the strict eating regimen, but oh my gosh, sometimes it's like...gtfo.

I'm just kind of introverted and haven't dealt with living with other peoples for awhile. I really kind of don't like it. I can't help but feel awkward when he just comes and hovers in the doorway as I read to the kids before bed, and I HATE HATE HATE having to deal with him asking if it's ok to do things we already agreed he wouldn't do before he came - like playing video games in the main part of the house, or on the main computer (he has his own setups for that in his room). I just really loathe having authority over other grown people, it makes me tired and I don't see why we have to talk about this when it was already settled via email 2 weeks ago. This is why we stopped having a part time nanny, I totally cannot stand telling other adults what to do in my house, setting boundaries and all that crap.

His weird standards for everything are also really exasperating. Like, to him, REALLY baggy and somewhat faded black jeans ARE "nice pants" for a job interview...compared to his Hot Topic jeans which have buckles, chains and red lacing all over, or his "old jeans" that are ripped from thigh to calf. He expects some kind of validation and affirmation because he got up at noon rather than 2 or 3, like that is early. And he genuinely believes I should be proud because he puts half a banana into a smoothie that otherwise consists of corn syrup-y sherbert and caramel sauce.

We've had at least one late night, hours-long conversation that I feel really good about, though. And I feel good when I see him taking walks, or outside on the trampoline with A and A. Elise seriously ADORES him and he carries her around a lot, which I think is good for both of them (I can't carry her at all, due to herniation).

Probably he wanted to open up his skull and bleach his brain the other day when G and I got in the shower together and then locked the bedroom door for an hour after we got out. I pretty much refuse to just never do that again since he's here indefinitely, though. I mean, this is what keeps me waiting all week for Grant's days off.

He also shuddered, blinked 3 times and then burst into hysterical laughter the first time he walked in on my belly cast, and covers his eyes asking "Are you decent?" when he suspects Elise could be nursing.

Tomorrow is the first day of all sorts of "conditions" kicking in...we agreed to a week of him hanging out and chilling, but then him spending at least 3 days per week out actively looking for a job and making follow-up calls and all that, with the deal being that he will have a job within a month. Maybe a crappy job while he continues looking for something better, but a job. My mother sent money for him to get better clothes with, which I'm sure will be...interesting, to negotiate with him. I think it will be ok. He seems to respond well to being initially horrified, like for instance when I suggested bow ties and suspenders in plaids it made him much more open to black polos. There have to be some sort of beige penny loafers out there that can terrify open him up to plain old dark dress shoes.

He says things sometimes that strongly imply him being here forever. I've had to gently remind him several times that he shouldn't look at this as his home for the rest of his life - even if he needs to make a 5 year plan or a 3 year plan or something, this is not the place to plan on being when he's 30. He kind of laughed nervously when I told him he has to move out before my kids do.

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It's too damned late, and I have to do a marathon run of blitz-cleaning tomorrow for when my father arrives the next day, and then the house just kind of fills up for Thanksgiving...I think I'm going to put Isaac in A and A's room, bring Jake and Elise in our room, stick Bob in the emptied out little kids' room, and let my Dad have Bob's room, for the one night he's here. My sister and I are coordinating the menu and double-teaming the cooking. Oh, damnitt...I have to pick up my produce share all early in the morning because the turkey I pre-ordered is going to be in it, and the lady I pick up from doesn't have room in her fridge for everyone's turkeys...blargh.

That's it, I'm out.

Comments

[mercyorbemoaned.livejournal.com]

I don't think that the boundary stuff has to be about you being in authority over him. It's just normal roommate negotiation, which he would have to do with other people his own age if he lived with them. And stuff like respecting that other people want to be left alone when reading or late at night, that is a really important early adulthood developmental task.

[altarflame.livejournal.com]

This is a helpful perspective and you are right.

I am trying to get away from the notion that we have to play down all our standards a bit with/for him since he's so behind in every area and it's not fair to force a complete, revolutionary 180 on him. Because he kind of needs a complete, revolutionary 180, our standards aren't AT ALL crazy and it's not doing him any favors to continue to shield him from real world expectations.

[mercyorbemoaned.livejournal.com]

Yeah, and you also don't want to precipitate a crisis that will be upsetting for the children... but then it's very resentful-making when you're bending over backwards to prevent a crisis from happening by not enforcing simple boundaries, and the other person is totally incapable of perceiving the tons of emotional work you're doing.

[altarflame.livejournal.com]

other person is totally incapable of perceiving the tons of emotional work you're doing

THIIIIIIIISS!!! This exactly. *sigh*

50% of the time I am sure I've done the right thing. 25% of the time I feel that this could be a mistake and/or we can't deal with for the indefinite time period it is. The remaining 25% is me thinking I've just lost some of the incredible closeness with God and constant prayerfulness that led to the decision, and if I got back on that wagon it would be much easier to deal with him in a sincerely gracious and loving manner.

[mercyorbemoaned.livejournal.com]

Yeah dude that way lies madness. Sure if you were super holy you'd have an easier time with your brother, but you're not, and faking it isn't how it works.

Personally I am totally fine with doing most of the emotional work if I get the other person to do housework or driving or something.

[eternamariposa.livejournal.com]

You know all through reading the stuff you were saying about Bob I was thinking that we just seem to have a really similar response to being in close quarters with other adults because it sounds so similar to how I felt all the time living with the in laws. The tension of him observing you, talking to you when you feel totally unavailable, etc. when he feels like he is just trying to be a part of things, a social part. But we think too much and get all caught up in a tizzy about things. For me it was setting the boundaries to make sure MIL always knew when to back off-and she never ever did- so, do I create some crazy, uncomfortable conflict or swallow it and possibly die of an internal freakout? For you, it is the constant internal battle over how to raise him, if you should be raising him at all, and battling self imposed guilt cause some body has to, etc.

As for the boundary setting, I think we just spent a lot of years living with people who were pretty irrationally unpredictable in their responses to us being around. It was really hard to just be yourself and learn about a natural boundary exchange under those circumstances. In my experience this has been a hard thing to shake in my adult life.

I think that saying the "other person is totally incapable of perceiving the tons of emotional work you're doing" captures it perfectly.

[altarflame.livejournal.com]

I meant to tell you that this comment was so insightful and right on that it made my eyes widen and my brows come together in confused shock :p Really, though.

[eternamariposa.livejournal.com]

I can totally picture the expression.

[altarflame.livejournal.com]

I think Brad Pitt is hot, but I'm not really attracted to him, if that makes any sense. George Clooney is a phenomenon I don't relate to, though I do at least grasp it as he is basically an archetype.

The thing about men in eyeliner is it can be attractive, but I don't understand how people just collectively ignore it as though it wasn't there and never mention it. I can't look at a man in eyeliner, regardless of how hot it is, for one second without being consciously aware of the eyeliner that, let's face it, is kind of ridiculous. I really don't dig makeup and hair products on chicks, either, though, so...eh.

Like Richard on Lost? I can't sit through a single episode he's in without a whole rant on how it is an ISLAND, a fucking island, where the hell is he stashing all this maybeline...don't get me started on Jack Sparrow, who would need an eyepatch if he was really taking a pencil to his eye on a ship, drunk, everyday. It's just so over the top dumb!

[tintaglia30.livejournal.com]

Nestor Carbonell does NOT wear eyeliner, his eyes are naturally like that. He looks like that in everything. I think he is hawt, much hotter than any of the 'hottest men' you've listed.
Personally though, I'd take Johnny Depp over the other two any day, but only if he was dressed as Jack. Honestly though, it's not like Johnny Depp would smell, I don't think they actually splash him with rum and sweat! :P

Johnny

[yarnwench.livejournal.com]

Thank you for that video - it is now on my facebook page:) I have to disagree - I think Johnny is absolutely hot! I love that he takes on the strange roles that he does - he definitely isn't afraid of his feminine side. But I think he has a very masculine side, too. He never wanted to be a pin-up - that completely repulses him and he has kept away from the roles that play him up as the pretty boy. He was offered the part that Brad Pitt played in Legends of the Fall and turned it down for that reason. I prefer to watch him in such things as Dead Man. It is his ability to communicate on the screen that gets to me. Anyway, I could go on and on but I'll spare you! To each his own. Give me Sam in Benny & Joon anytime...

Re: Johnny

[altarflame.livejournal.com]

You're welcome, about the video :)

I love that he takes on strange roles, too - I really am a huge fan of Johnny Depp, the actor. I even think it's cool how he's avoided being the pin-up type. I just can't see him as SO OVERWHELMINGLY SEXIEST MAN ALIVE. *shrug* I'm glad he makes you happy ;)

I actually haven't seen Benny and Joon or Dead Man. Maybe that's part of my problem!

Re: Johnny

[yarnwench.livejournal.com]

Ah - Dead Man is not a sexy role at all. He's a mild mannered fellow caught up in a murder - a very strange film that many people hate, but Johnny at his best. Benny & Joon is just the sweetest love story ever - kind of a modern-day fairy tale of misfits. I never tire of that movie.

So who do you find, besides your Grant, to be the sexiest man alive? Just curious! And that video is being snatched up and shared on facebook as I type this btw - thanks again!

Re: Johnny

[altarflame.livejournal.com]

Hmm....I would probably say a 3 way tie between Sayid, the character, on Lost, Bram Stoker's Dracula as played by Gary Oldman, and my own idea of cannon Severus Snape, i.e., Snape with Allen Rickman's voice but aesthetically Trent Reznor. I have an icon I keep meaning to upload that says, "She liked imaginary men best of all..."

It's honestly pretty hard for me to just pick out men and say, "He's so hot". I used to have big things for (and this is embarassing) Nikki Sixx and Lenny Kravitz, when I was a young teen. But that again had a lot to do with personality...

Maybe it is about the amount of sexual energy I am expending on G, like there just isn't much left over :p

Then again I could list amazingly sexy women with no problem whatsoever, so...

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[ariellejuliana.livejournal.com]

I am totally with you on Sayid.

Re: Johnny

[theneolistickid.livejournal.com]

Ok, ok. Break it up.

Re: Johnny

[altarflame.livejournal.com]

lol

Johnny Depp..

[lady-goodman.livejournal.com]

Oddly my husband and I were just talking last night about 'who's on your list' and the only person I could think of was Johnny Depp (and I didn't even know about the People thing). He's on my list because his family and life seems so attractive to me... it's beyond his own physical sexiness really and definitely has nothing to do with the characters he's played. (Not true for Christian Bale, for example, who is only hot to me as Batman)

Check out these pictures: http://community.livejournal.com/ohnotheydidnt/41377628.html

GORGEOUS! All of it.

Re: Johnny Depp..

[altarflame.livejournal.com]

All of that IS gorgeous - but...theirs. I think I have a deep personal aversion to thinking any husband and father is "hot" or "sexy" to me, if that makes sense. I look at those pictures and feel happy for them and admiring of their family, not hot for the guy who is so obviously taken and devoted.

If my own husband was not super devoted and awesome it might make a difference here. But I feel I have my own "that" and so the Depp/Paradis version is kind of irrelevant to my own libido.

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[tooby3.livejournal.com]

Absolutely to all of this. But by your own logic, can you find any man sexy other than your own husband?

I guess my realization about what is sexy to me about Johnny Depp IS that he appears to be such a devoted husband and father. Not that he's an actor or that he has any special physical characteristics (as you pointed out, he's amazing in his ability to transform his appearance).

I don't feel hot for him in a way that relates to my husband and my family. Just in the way that I appreciate how he is. I guess my fantasy world is pretty in line with my real life world in that regard.

Re: Johnny Depp..

[altarflame.livejournal.com]

I mean it's easier for me to perceive single guys as being really sexy, because they're available and looking and that has a certain potential that just feels closed to me, in a married guy with kids. I can't be the only one who feels this way or there wouldn't be such a collective dissapointment from mainstream women when some current "hot guy" in the media gets hitched - I mean there's no way the average 40 year old woman in Montana thinks she has a chance at A list actors, in real life, but they still feel like it's messing up their fantasy when the guy becomes committed to someone else. You know?

I know what you mean though, I mean in general I can't take womanizing, comittment-phobic guys seriously either. I guess my ideal would be someone who really wants a committment and has that mindset but isn't with anyone yet. All that passion and intensity just bottled up and as potential.

[mommydama.livejournal.com]

I think Johnny Depp is ragingly hot. But you already know we have VERY different ideals in men. Heh. I think a lot of it with him is personality. And his lips.

I've been really wondering how things were going with your brother. I'm glad there are some goods.

[altarflame.livejournal.com]

You are seriously the LAST PERSON I ever would have expected to say that! I think because I feel as though J.D. SHOULD be closer to my own ideals, since he does so many dark/goth roles and that has traditionally been an easy way to win me over. I just didn't see eyeliner, long dreads and gold teeth as doing it for you, Dama, what can I say ;)

I'm sure part of it is Grant, but I really do prefer BIGGER guys, too. I think men are supposed to be tall enough that I can tuck my head under their chins and wide enough that I can be enveloped in a hug. If someone cannot at least playfully pick me up I can probably not take them very seriously as far as sexuality goes. I also absolutely shudder away from the idea of feeling big compared to a guy.

[mommydama.livejournal.com]

Have you seen The Man Who Cried? Yeah. THAT is the Johnny Depp who gets me. The goth and dreads? That is just fun to watch.

okay, i'm campaigning

[-evalution.livejournal.com]

johnny depp is pretty much my only celebrity crush these days. maybe some of his appeal is age based--i'm nearly 34, and saw him in john waters cry baby before i saw edward scissorhands. i enjoy the fact that he doesn't just take roles that showcase him as good looking, and he will even make himself odd and unattractive to play a character. but i found him hot in:

what's eating gilbert grape
benny and joon
donnie brasco
from hell

hot johnny depp--in chocolat:

http://www.imdb.com/video/screenplay/vi3387425049/

Re: okay, i'm campaigning

[altarflame.livejournal.com]

Your campaign could be a good one - I've never seen any of those. I've pretty much exclusively seen the wacky and weird movies - which are awesome, his movies are some of my favorites, but yeah. The age based thing, I don't know...when I see pictures of Johnny Depp from the 80s I'm struck by how much better he looks as he gets older. So, I don't know how that would or would not play in.

[megistopolis.blogspot.com (from livejournal.com)]

-I'm with you on the Johnny Depp thing.

-Congrats on getting your article and your artwork published - that is a great success! Having it accepted by the first place you sent it to is A Big Deal. As for the novel, I think you have the right frame of mind regarding persistence...good luck!

-Can I ask at what age you start your kids with homeschooling curriculum? Do you wait until they're 5 yrs/school aged or do you introduce them to curriculum in various subjects as they seem interested?

eBirdie

[altarflame.livejournal.com]

With Ananda and Aaron, we were doing the free curriculum at www.letteroftheweek.com when they were 3 and 4. Then we kind of mixed it up after that with all sorts of different materials.

With the younger three, there's been less structure in the preschool ages. But still plenty of reading and explaining and cooking and educational tv and all that kind of hooey. I'm just now really starting to sit down with Isaac on a regular basis to officially "do school", and he'll be 6 in February.

It's been my experience so far that little kids, if they're interacted with and talked to and involved in activities, can effortlessly stay way ahead of the curve without any real structure. But around 3rd grade it starts to be important, assuming you care about state standards and what they're "supposed" to know by such and such times.

[custard-kisses.livejournal.com]

I look completely different from the front and side too, I have wide hips and a narrow waist so I'm fairly curvy front on but turn me sideways and I literally disappear. My size B chest and general skinniness turn me into an ironing board. Which is why I pose 3/4 in photos lol, a bit of curve a bit of skinny win/win

Eh none of those guys touches Hugh Jackman for sexy. that man is gorgeous, not to mention sweet and a great dad and he loves his wife like she's a mf'ing goddess. That is sexy, loyalty, commitment, passion, and well his face and body are pretty spanking too.

[ecosopher.livejournal.com]

It's really hard work having someone else live with you, regardless of who it is ... especially if that someone is going to be there for a while and is "that age". Good luck finding your middle ground, you will, it just takes time :) (From someone who's been there, in a kind of different way).

So, Johnny Depp

[eternamariposa.livejournal.com]

I can actually totally get why he was made sexiest man alive, not because he is super hot, because I agree that he only looks really good when he would probably smell very bad, but because he has been such the chameleon in all of the roles that he has played that he has established some seriously wide mass appeal. Probably anyone, including say Nana, can choose a role where for a second they thought, damn that is a pretty dude right there. lol. I can't stand behind any male use of eyeliner or extensive product-ing of any type outside of a movie role because 1. it usually looks ridiculous and 2. even if it does work for them somehow, then you are with a dude that is standing in front of the mirror next to you putting on that eyeliner every day. Survey says: not hot.

I think for sexiest man alive Brad Pitt is hard to beat. He is pretty hot and seems to be a genuine, complex man who flashes that smile whenever he is being a smart ass in his movies and it really works. I think every year since he was chosen for SMA, they have had to choose other men just because "come on guys it can't be him every year", but it totally could.

[babyslime.livejournal.com]

"Probably he wanted to open up his skull and bleach his brain the other day when G and I got in the shower together and then locked the bedroom door for an hour after we got out. I pretty much refuse to just never do that again since he's here indefinitely, though. I mean, this is what keeps me waiting all week for Grant's days off."

Why on earth would you stop enjoying yourself because he MAY or may not realize it? :P Poo poo to him.
My sister overhears us, and we do her... it doesn't stop anyone. In fact we've openly joked about it. He LIVES at YOUR house. Respect is owed. :-P