Re: First paragraph - yes, absolutely. And something that I really see now but couldn't see at all before, is how you don't KNOW and can't know how it's going to catch up with you down the road. I've been thinking about the financial part of this a lot lately, which is not exactly the same thing but very related - how I used to spout off about how babies and toddlers are free, kids are so much cheaper than everyone says, blah blah blah. Now that they're older, now that we pay more for food than our mortgage payment, now that we've got to pay on Annie's braces, Aaron's optical specialist (he's far sighted and got glasses for reading recently), and Elise's testing all in the same month that we need school uniforms and supplies x5...and have broken skates that need to be replaced and sneakers for 3 and Isaac wants to be a cheerleader again... I see that we set a really high mountain for ourselves to climb, back when it was all reusing the cloth diapers and babies in bed with us.
I'm also starting to experience major fears about my older kids' vulnerabilities - I got sort of spoiled during latency, being past all the looming baby and toddler dangers, and now it's like bam - Annie looks like a woman and wants to spend the night places. She has friends with drivers licenses who want to take her out places. This isn't really what you were talking about, it's just another one of those things you don't REALLY understand, as you add babies and feel capable with your toddlers and preschoolers.
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Date: 2014-07-27 04:04 am (UTC)I'm also starting to experience major fears about my older kids' vulnerabilities - I got sort of spoiled during latency, being past all the looming baby and toddler dangers, and now it's like bam - Annie looks like a woman and wants to spend the night places. She has friends with drivers licenses who want to take her out places. This isn't really what you were talking about, it's just another one of those things you don't REALLY understand, as you add babies and feel capable with your toddlers and preschoolers.
I loved your whole comment :)