I think one of the hardest things to talk about with women who are in the midst of the back-to-back pregnancies and births is that you can really get by on so little, and put your own body's needs on hold for the needs of very small babies, but it... catches up with you. I mean, even later when they're older, and that is a major thing. Adam jokes about #5 for us and I'm like NOOOOOO, because while I know I would probably cope the way I've coped before, I also think, 'at what point is this just going to break me?' Physically, emotionally... I just can't do it. And at some point, I want my life to be about what I want to do, not simply bringing up children. Obviously I do do stuff for me, but the youngest is not quite two, so their needs are still very much front and centre for now.
I don't like birth control much, but I like it better than being pregnant again. And I like it better than the constant worry I *know* I would have if we practised natural methods. It's really choosing the better of the two evils for me.
I feel very much the same way about adult interaction as you do. We went away to visit my sister and her children for a few days recently, and I caught up with a really good friend during that time, too, and I was so knackered at the end of every day. I loved it but I was so glad to get home. I guess the 'problem' (if it is one) is that Adam and I have been together so long that it really is, like you say, just like having a conversation in my head. And I also feel a little... I guess sad isn't the word, but I don't know what is... sad? that that kind of connection is the result of years and years of time and experiences, which I neither have the time, nor the inclination, to expend on other friends now.
Two of my four at at school now. I do dread the years of finding one-on-one time as they get older. A lot of what you say about trips in the car is still in my future, but I can already see it with the older two when I take them to my parents'.
Anyway. Good to hear from you :) I hope all goes well with Elise's evals and that she gets a good class for the new term (and that they all settle in easily, too).
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Date: 2014-07-27 01:45 am (UTC)I don't like birth control much, but I like it better than being pregnant again. And I like it better than the constant worry I *know* I would have if we practised natural methods. It's really choosing the better of the two evils for me.
I feel very much the same way about adult interaction as you do. We went away to visit my sister and her children for a few days recently, and I caught up with a really good friend during that time, too, and I was so knackered at the end of every day. I loved it but I was so glad to get home. I guess the 'problem' (if it is one) is that Adam and I have been together so long that it really is, like you say, just like having a conversation in my head. And I also feel a little... I guess sad isn't the word, but I don't know what is... sad? that that kind of connection is the result of years and years of time and experiences, which I neither have the time, nor the inclination, to expend on other friends now.
Two of my four at at school now. I do dread the years of finding one-on-one time as they get older. A lot of what you say about trips in the car is still in my future, but I can already see it with the older two when I take them to my parents'.
Anyway. Good to hear from you :) I hope all goes well with Elise's evals and that she gets a good class for the new term (and that they all settle in easily, too).