Some of it is like the gender roles - it's obvious that it couldn't have come from anywhere else. Such as, particular insults and mean words we don't use, cultural references to things she wouldn't be exposed to by us, and saying things in the wrong ways that she would not have heard here (lots of double negatives, the word "ain't").
Other things are "really probably most likely" from school, though I guess they could just be Elise things - they're things I've only seen in school kids in the past, anyway, that sure do seem like she's bringing them home. Like, embarrassment at anything related to her ever having been younger, a whole gossip chain of other 5 year olds' love lives, a constant self consciousness about eating healthy or wearing different clothes or enjoying unusual things - this is different than shyness, which of course I see everywhere, and it is sometimes very subtle, but basically homeschoolers seem to have a noticeable (and to me awesome) lack of it. They just are who they are, with an ease that is kinda destroyed by being steeped in unrelated peers all day every day with just a couple of adults supervising as people get judged, teased, chosen for friends, etc. There's also an eye roll-y response to my displeasure, rather than taking me seriously, and the regular use of sarcasm, both of which usually start 3-5 years later than this in homeschooled kids I've been exposed to.
The most obvious and annoying things are the volume increase and the attention span decrease, though. I suppose they're also the most subjective to try to blame anything for, but I swear she's already quieter and less easily bored, just 3 weeks into being out of school.
Ultimately every child is different and there are, of course, spectrums of behaviors in homeschooled and in formally schooled kids, most of which have some overlap! I've often found it very difficult to spend a lot of time around large groups of homeschoolers, though, without being sort of aghast when I get around "regular kids" again for the first time in awhile.
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Date: 2013-01-11 10:34 pm (UTC)Other things are "really probably most likely" from school, though I guess they could just be Elise things - they're things I've only seen in school kids in the past, anyway, that sure do seem like she's bringing them home. Like, embarrassment at anything related to her ever having been younger, a whole gossip chain of other 5 year olds' love lives, a constant self consciousness about eating healthy or wearing different clothes or enjoying unusual things - this is different than shyness, which of course I see everywhere, and it is sometimes very subtle, but basically homeschoolers seem to have a noticeable (and to me awesome) lack of it. They just are who they are, with an ease that is kinda destroyed by being steeped in unrelated peers all day every day with just a couple of adults supervising as people get judged, teased, chosen for friends, etc. There's also an eye roll-y response to my displeasure, rather than taking me seriously, and the regular use of sarcasm, both of which usually start 3-5 years later than this in homeschooled kids I've been exposed to.
The most obvious and annoying things are the volume increase and the attention span decrease, though. I suppose they're also the most subjective to try to blame anything for, but I swear she's already quieter and less easily bored, just 3 weeks into being out of school.
Ultimately every child is different and there are, of course, spectrums of behaviors in homeschooled and in formally schooled kids, most of which have some overlap! I've often found it very difficult to spend a lot of time around large groups of homeschoolers, though, without being sort of aghast when I get around "regular kids" again for the first time in awhile.