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Feb. 15th, 2006 06:46 pmFirst of all, I'm wondering. Say, just hypothetically now, that someone has got 4 small kids they're staying home with and they're busy most of the time. Beyond busy - like, picking a toddler up out of the portacrib with an infant in the other arm while yelling over her head that she'll be right there with more toilet paper. Tandem nursing and helping someone with a workbook when somebody else falls and gets hurt in the hallway and she has to drop everybody else like VERY PISSED, LOUD hot rocks for a moment, busy.
This mama has a wonderfully supportive man who is a great daddy and her best friend. He's happy to let her go out with her sister or friends here and there when he has the rare chance, or escape to the grocery store alone in the evening. He stays up late with her even though he's tired so they can have time once the kids are a-bed. Like, every single night. Even though he gets up earlier than everyone else everyday. And he runs errands for her during the day and rearranges his schedule so she can use their one vehicle sometimes.
Is it selfish or overmuch for this woman to want her man home every night for dinner? Keeping in mind that she's willing to push dinner back as late as 7 or 7:30 so long as he's present, and that she cooks a real meal each night? Said man (hypothetically of course :p) goes back to work in the home office after dinner, so it's not as if his work day is done come mealtime. And he works 7 days a week, not just M-F.
The reasons for missing dinner are things like meetings that civic clubs he's a part of are having are scheduled at that time, or clients who want things fixed are only available then on that particular day, or he's selling wine for someone at an outdoor mall where the sales are peak from noon to midnight. He's not gone because he's partying. But she still thinks it might be a matter of priorities, and that the kids need to see this man as more than the guy who passes through during the day and brushes their teeth.
It happens about 3 days out of 7 - but would happen almost nightly if she didn't whine about it. Should she stop whining? Or should she put her foot down?
What do you think?
This mama has a wonderfully supportive man who is a great daddy and her best friend. He's happy to let her go out with her sister or friends here and there when he has the rare chance, or escape to the grocery store alone in the evening. He stays up late with her even though he's tired so they can have time once the kids are a-bed. Like, every single night. Even though he gets up earlier than everyone else everyday. And he runs errands for her during the day and rearranges his schedule so she can use their one vehicle sometimes.
Is it selfish or overmuch for this woman to want her man home every night for dinner? Keeping in mind that she's willing to push dinner back as late as 7 or 7:30 so long as he's present, and that she cooks a real meal each night? Said man (hypothetically of course :p) goes back to work in the home office after dinner, so it's not as if his work day is done come mealtime. And he works 7 days a week, not just M-F.
The reasons for missing dinner are things like meetings that civic clubs he's a part of are having are scheduled at that time, or clients who want things fixed are only available then on that particular day, or he's selling wine for someone at an outdoor mall where the sales are peak from noon to midnight. He's not gone because he's partying. But she still thinks it might be a matter of priorities, and that the kids need to see this man as more than the guy who passes through during the day and brushes their teeth.
It happens about 3 days out of 7 - but would happen almost nightly if she didn't whine about it. Should she stop whining? Or should she put her foot down?
What do you think?
