We are contemplating a move and what helped was to make a list of activities (actual and emotional) and see how frequently we did them and what priority we wanted to assign to them. Our list looked something like this - commute (10 times/week), church (1/week), skiing (2/month and during winter only), museums and arts stuff (2/month in warm weather) and see what makes sense to you.

Another thing to consider is that your older kids will be out and about with friends or in college independently in a few years and you want to make sure that their resources are easily accessible to them.