I have been reading your journal since before Elise was born. I only comment occasionally, but, I really enjoy what I read. I think your family is absolutely beautiful and I think you really fight for your children and like Noelove said, you really want the best for your kids.
And really, it isn't anyones place to say anything about how you raise your kids and deal with your family. If they don't know you, they do not know what is going on. And even if they do know you, they still have no clue. It is not anyones place to judge.